Reverse Proposals?
On Z100 this morning, they were discussing the idea of a woman proposing to a man.
Elvis was begging his colleagues, and many listeners, to open their minds to the new way of doing things.
Someone mentioned that this was a way of bringing equality between the sexes, and the more traditional method of a man proposing to a woman has become outdated.
Whhhaaaaat?
In the book
He's Just Not That Into You, the authors note that
according to their study, 100% of relationships initiated by the woman failed. Now, they're not saying that after the couple has been dating a year, the woman proposed, and therefore the relationship failed.
Also, judging by the casual style the book was written, I wouldn't imagine their "studies" were purely scientific.
In many ways, salaries for one, I'm all for equality. Wasn't there an equal rights amendment that was unsuccessful? For good reason. I do not want men in my restrooms or fitting rooms, thank you very much.
I find that if a woman has to propose to a man, she loses the upper-hand in the relationship. Not like she had much of it to begin with.
The nature of these relationships is that the guy pursues the girl; generally not the other way around.
Would any of the women in the audience consider proposing?
How would the men in the audience react to that?
Dating From Home
"Oh, so, y'know who's engaged?" My mother asked.
I just looked at her. "Some 19-year-old pisher," I thought to myself.
"So-and-so's daughter. And you know what? She was never picked up from her own home. She was either picked up from the shadchan's house, or arranged to be picked up from somewhere else." (And, yes, it was her first guy. And she was 18, not 19, silly me.)
"That's ridiculous," I said matter-of-factly.
If it were me picking up the girl, my initial reaction would be, "What is she hiding? What doesn't she want me to see? Why is she so immature?"
"Yeah, but this girl didn't want anyone to know she was dating. She was afraid her neighbors would see," my mother explained.
"I don't know, if you're old enough to date, you're old enough to be seen being picked up for a date."
"Okay, that's your opinion," my ever-so-diplomatic mother replied.
I think I can honestly say that one of my neighbors keeps better track of my dates than I do.
He'll be outside when the guy opens my car door for me (if he has that courtesy) and say something like, "Oh, let me get my garbage cans out of the way..." and take a good look at the dude.
When I went out with a guy with a red car three times, there were questions about "Michelle and the guy with the red car."
When I was standing on a corner (on our first and last date with one another) with my date after a minor fender-bender in the neighborhood, someone assumed I was getting engaged because I was outside with a boy in my neighborhood. "What you saw yesterday is over," I informed this individual, when I met him on the street again the next day. "That's too bad, my son and I thought you were getting engaged." (In this case, I honestly don't think he realized what he said. At his daughter's vort, his wife gave me an actual sincere 'IY"H by you,' so I can't really give this guy a terribly hard time.)
When you are picked up on a date, yes, there is a possibility that you will be seen. I understand that some people's neighbors aren't mature enough to handle seeing their neighbors on a date.
Nevertheless, I find this new "not dating from home" trend idiotic.
Dating in your own neighborhood is another story for another day.
Perhaps a girl who is not mature enough to tolerate being seen being picked up for a date is not mature enough to be dating, period.
Happy 2009!
I endured Ryan Seacrest for about 30 seconds Wednesday night when at 11:55 p.m. I realized, "I'm up anyway..."
Happy New Year, everyone!
And once I get working on one of my approximately 71 drafts sitting in blogger, you'll have something new to read!
