Where Has Derech Eretz Gone?
I am seriously so fed up with this lack of derech eretz. Teachers espeically bear the brunt of these spoiled children who never learn repsect. Most children nowadays do not learn repsect because they are raised my maids. These maids care about one thing: Their job security. They want their money. So they won't teach the kids anything. They'll spoil them rotten because they know as soon as Mommy hears her kid cryin, she'll fire the woman. So basically, we are left selfish, bratty kids.This is obvious at many kiddushim. Here, the parents are actually there with their children. They display their own selfish behavior when they seat their 3 precious children in chairs that were set up for adults. So the adults have to manage their kugel, cholent, cake, and diet coke in their two hands, while these people seat their 5 year olds with a slice of turkey. That's not even the point. These parents realize that if they feed their children now, they're off the hook for a while. "Who cares about the adults? My child has to eat so I can pass him on to my maid sooner." These kids are taught that they come before anyone else. They're too young to notice what's wrong with what their doing. Their parents are too selfish to know. So they end up like these kids: (though the above is more extreme than the next story)
I was visiting a high school recently, and walked into the office to find a student in the secratary's chair. I was appalled. I asked, "What are you doing sitting there?" with a confused look on my face. "What are you talking about? I live in this chair!" She responded casually. "Well, that's totally inappropriate and I don't approve," I informed her.
Then, during the break, all the girls came swarming in, and helped themselves to whatever they pleased. They opened drawers, made photocopes, and phone calls. This was beyond me. Yes me. The BUM who watches TV and listens to goyishe music...would never ever consider doing anything remotely similar to that. That whole TV thing is just a friendly reminder of how badly I was treated because of it, yet I would never do things like that, like their beloved fakers. I mean, frummies.
Okay, my point is: Where has Derech Eretz gone?
posted by Michelle @ 9:00 PM
13 Comments:
There's no question, it's gone down the toilet bowl. You're right on, as usual.
I've noticed that the lack of Derech Eretz thing applies to almost all kids not even those "raised by maids". When I was eight and me or any of my classmates would have said something even remotely chutzpadik we would have been punished that minute. It may be the lack of fear of authority that exists now. "It's okay my mother said that the principal is an idiot anyway......" Nobody I grew up with would have ever said that--and I'm still a "teenager" now!
~~MS
I disagree with both of you. Badmouthing a moronic rebbe is not what leads to a general lack of respect, assuming the guy really is a moron. I say, it's the whole self-esteem cult that has caused a drop in DE. God forbid you should criticize your child, even constructively and in a loving way, because that may damage his self-esteem. So parents can't teach right and wrong. Criticize your son and he'll report you for abuse.
And you know what? These idiots with no DE don't feel good about themselves - they think everything is coming to them, and they're, for the most part, a miserable bunch. See the latest issue of Psychology Today for more on the sham of the self-esteem cult.
It's a combination of what the last anonymous said, and what Perfect Ema said. Perfect Ema said that the parents are trying to be perfect. Anonymous brought out the point about the self-esteem. The parents are SO worried about their children's self-esteem that they are afraid to criticize. These parents are so freakin' insecure, they don't know WHAT to do, in effort to make sure their kids aren't as insecure as they are.
It's definitely true that the disrespectful kids are the insecure ones. They feel ethe need to show themselves up to the authority.
My error in this post was trying to include too many things under one huge category and not providing specifics. Next time I'll try to SPACE IN when I write!
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I work in a school where it's known fact that the kids are spoiled rotten. The only people in my class who don't have housekeepers are the teachers! The kids all know that when we yell "What do you think I am, the housekeeper?" we are really mad. It's exactly like you said-the kids are raised by the maids who don't speak English, & wouldn't discipline them even if they did speaka da language because their job is at stake.
Kids nowdays in yeshiva are only taught learn learn learn! They aren't taught respect. I saw an old lady had fallen once and a yeshiva boy walking by said sorry its untznius and I can't help you up. I won't post here what I said to him as I ran over to help her up. It is extremely frustrating as that is only one of many scenes I have experienced with undisciplined yeshiva boys
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