Sunday, October 02, 2005

My Teachers/Mothers/Sisters

Well, it took me a while, but I finally thought of something positive. Nah, I'm kidding, but after spending an hour on the phone with a teacher from high school, I remembered the thought that often occupies my mind, "My teachers are awesome, special people."

I guess I was always that eager-to-please dork in the class who did whatever the teacher said, and was therefore often favored. In third grade, my Hebrew teacher called me aside one day and told me that if I try hard in Chumash, she'd get me a gift at the end of the year. That year, I had an ID crisis-I hated my name, and decided to go by my middle name. The end of June came around, and she handed me my gift as promised. I opened the wrapping to reveal a keychain with my middle name on it. I still have it. Throughout the year, she often borrowed my Journal from English, and noticed a picture I had drawn for her when she had a baby, but was too shy to give to her. She praised it and asked if she could have it.

In fourth grade, my English teacher used to call me out during D.E.A.R. time (Drop Everything and Read) to see how everything was going, and fostered a connection with me. Every year after that, I had similar connections, but that would take all day. I'll just skip to the more recent ones.

In eighth grade, when I went through my "rebellious stage," one teacher provided me and my friends with an open invitation to her house, which only I chose to take advantage of, and that invitation still stands. (Last I checked, anyway...) I don't talk to her every day, but when I do, it's as if I have. Anytime I need advice, I don't hesitate to call her. She always makes time for me. If it's not when I call, it's a half-hour later. With a large family Bli Ayen Hora, she is sure to give me the attention I need. I have watched her children grow (on and off) and the older ones sure remember me.

In high school, I was trying to get out of going on some dumb trips. (Always hated trips. Always will.) It was the end of the day, and there was another teacher in the office who heard the conversation. It was the beginning of 11th grade. I left the principal's office, and swiftly made my escape with tears welling up in my eyes. "Don't run!" My new teacher yelled after me, and she caught up with me and consoled me. We exchanged e-mail addresses, and built a close relationship. We always talked about how I am the younger version of her, and I kind of think of her as the older sister I always wish I had. Every Shabbaton, we'd have a scheduled walk and talk. She drove me home from a Layl Iyun once or twice because we were talking the whole time anyway, and when she left, why should I have bothered to stay? Now, don't start this whole favoritism garbage, she wasn't "yeshivish" enough for the other to kids to "like" her. All the more for me then. She's just so cool and down to earth. She treats her students like people, like equals, with proper respect, not like subhuman beings only there to learn her subject and do her work.

The other teacher, the one I was on the phone with for an hour tonight, is extraordinary. She was really not feeling well tonight, but when I texted her that I needed to talk, she said, "For you? Sure." She has done so much for me. Whatever I have gone though in high school, and after high school, she was always there for me. Also, if she can't talk when I call, we speak later that day. She's also married with a family, and she still gives me time. And energy. And great advice. She's open, she's honest, and she sincerely cares about me. She always listens with a full ear, and remembers things I forgot about. She gives me the encouragement I need without an ego. She has faith in me and my abilities like a parent does a child. Despite the fact that she is in touch with many of her students, she always manages to make me feel special, like I'm the only one.

The important aspect about these relationships is the openness and honesty that we share. They tell me anecdotes about their lives for me to learn from, and they always react so non-chalantly no matter what I choose to discuss. I really feel like I can open up to them about anything and everything I think about. They never judge me by what I tell them, but remind me when I am judgemental. They respect me for who I am inside, because that's what they know.

Truth be told, there are more teachers to discuss. I honestly have no idea where I would be without them, considering what I have endured in life thus far. I run to them about everything important. I depend on them. I love them like a parent or a sister. Every relationship is different. But my point is that I do know there are some selfless, loving, giving people out there. They just all happen to teach at my school.

18 Comments:

At 10/02/2005 10:05 PM, Blogger Lost said...

Hey you.. SEE.. all of you didn't think she could write s/t positive.. ;). Your BY must've been great, cuz i walked outta hs with no connections to any of the teachers. I found them to be too lofty and holier than
thou- "ish." If you don't have a supporting and loving family backing you up, it's really hard to get throuh life. Loving our little 'hiatuses' on the fifth floor T and TH!!!! :) Chag Sameach girl.

 
At 10/03/2005 8:06 AM, Blogger RuchniGashmi said...

After briefly searching through the many blogs written by frum girls I happened upon yours and read this post. As someone who went through the yeshiva system with a bad taste in my mouth about frum teachers in general, and as a social worker who works with many high school guys and girls, it is refreshing to be reminded that there still are teachers who make differences in their students lives and there still are students who recognize it. Awesome blog and when I set up my links on my blog I will include you.
ruchnigashmi.blogspot.com

 
At 10/06/2005 9:06 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

booooooring....

 
At 10/06/2005 11:33 AM, Blogger Michelle said...

Anonymous-What do you think you're accomplishing by telling me my piece is boring?

People asked for positive things. This is what I can think of. Any better ideas, smart aleck?

Or should I return to my cynical ways and write about how idiots like you have no respect for someone who works hard on a blog to bring people what she thinks is her best???

 
At 10/06/2005 1:01 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Michelle-I second your last comment in regards to the booooooring.....
--MS

 
At 10/06/2005 6:10 PM, Blogger Semgirl said...

Michelle, you are very lucky to have people like that in your life. I just wrote about that very topic on my blog..

 
At 10/09/2005 1:30 PM, Blogger Josh said...

Great stories. I don't think we should be too hard on the "other" teachers, though. You speak about the teachers that are inspiring, but some would argue that the purpose of teaching is to impart knowledge. Should a math teacher leave you able to compute numbers, or in love with numbers? Ultimately, it should be both, but there are plenty of people that just want their teachers to provide facts, not friendship.

 
At 1/11/2006 9:25 AM, Anonymous Chani said...

There were many teachers in high school whom I liked & respected. I never made a kesher with them because I'm not comfortable doing that, but I've always admired the way you did it. Those are "connections" worth having.

 
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