Tuesday, July 20, 2004

Shidduch Questions

When I got into the car on my first date, I knew three things about the guy: What he's looking for, what he's doing now, and which Yeshiva he went to.  I'm not telling everyone to do that, but get a life people.
 
I mean it.
 
I have heard such stupid, irrelevant questions that it makes me sick:
 
Why should anyone care if my mother comes to the Shabbos table in a robe? If she does, it means she's lazy? Or is it just practical that she doesn't want to risk dirtying a suit that she'll have to pay $20 to dry clean? Besides that, that doesn't mean the daughter approves of it and plans on doing it herself. If you're looking at the son, don't forget to check if the father evert takes off his hat, jacket, and tie throughout the meal. If so, when does that occur?
That's really important.
 
Does the girl wear a seatbelt in the car?
No, she's suicidal.
I understand there are tznius issues regarding the seatbelt.
Is it better to die? I think not.
 
Does the family use a plastic tablecloth?
If they do, they're just practical. They don't want a grape juice stain on the white tablecloth. Send that to the cleaners along with the mother's suit, and there goes $40. Who needs to be busy dusting off the crumbs for a half-hour after the meal?
 
Do they stack the plates at the table?
Meaning, do all the chicken bones end up on one person's plate at the top of the heap? all at the table? I understand it's gross to see every person's refuse gathered to one place. If it really bothers you, don't look. You want the hostess to make 35 trips from the dining room to the kitchen?
 
 

13 Comments:

At 7/20/2004 8:04 PM, Blogger Gary Student said...

I've noticed that in your past few blogs you have displayed a great deal of negativity towards the yeshivish community. You should stop being so cynical and start giving the benefit of the doubt.

I'm sure you are quoting your teachers out of context when you claim that they bashed boys who go to law school. Also, I am unaware of anyone who asks these questions regarding shidduchim.

You are hurting me with your anti-black-hat comments. They are my brothers, and their good sides outweigh the few bad qualities they may own. Why not focus on all the great chessed they do? Or how they daven and learn every day? Nobody's perfect, but that doesn't mean you should harp on their shortcomings.

Please attempt to post only positive comments in the future.

 
At 7/24/2004 7:03 PM, Blogger Michelle said...

Check out Burrykatz.blogspot.com for more anti-black-hat comments.

 
At 5/24/2005 6:09 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why is it that some people think that these questions so important? B4 finding out which seminary a girl is studying i would prefer to find out whether she is kind, if she does gemillas chasadim (sorry for the spelling) etc. I guess that some think that if you go to a chashuv seminary it means that you are refined etc, but sometimes that is not the case. Sometimes (not always- im not stereotying) it can be quite the opposite. Besides i wouldnt need someone to tell me such info, i can find it out for myself.

What do you guys think?

 
At 6/21/2006 8:10 PM, Anonymous Leah said...

The questions are vapid and simpleminded.
Its none of his business what your mother wears. Is he a perv?
by the way, I am from a Yeshivish family. doesnt mean I gave up my thinking and my ability to see what is just simply impolite behavior on some people's parts.
Asking such questions is just rude and obnoxious. Boys who do it I think don't really know what to say or do so its all they can come up with.

 
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